Beyond the Porn Star: What Radiantly Feminine Sexuality Is and How Our Culture Overrides It.

Women everywhere are realizing that there is more to their sexuality than they have been conditioned to believe by their culture. I have come to see this in working with thousands of women across the world – that we have some deep, inherent intuition that our sexuality is a profound gateway to living as the feminine in this world.

This whispering internal voice comes up against the blatant proclamations of the media. While teaching in England recently, I came across a popular magazine that had an article about how to have better sex. The author of the article recommended that sexual partners watch 10 minutes of pornography before intercourse. As substantiation for this suggestion, the author quoted research results that couples who watch pornography before intercourse are 58% more aroused.

Now let’s have a look at the assumptions underlying this piece of sexual teaching going out to the masses:

• Scientifically measured increase in sexual arousal is an indication of sexual success. In other words, human beings are similar to mice or rats in that an increase in their biological sexual functions (such as secretion of sexual juices) results in an increase in sexual success. If we can do it like rabbits, we are at the top of the sexual food chain.

• Sexual arousal results in good sex. The reality is that sexual arousal stemming from watching porn is coming entirely from your head. Associations in the subconscious mind come together to result in the release of neuropeptides such as dopamine, our body’s natural cocaine. This causes a rush of excitement that can make us feel a temporary heroism and bravado to “do it”. But very soon, that excitement drops, and we are left feeling empty.

• The ultimate model of the sexual feminine is the porn star. Imagine the scene. Woman sits with her partner watching porn to get ready for sex. She sees the extreme arousal happening in him as the porn star goes through her moves. Inside him, every move and visual code (e.g. the size of the breasts, the fact that she is wearing an apron or a nurse’s outfit or high heels and red lacy lingerie) is triggering neurological associations which result in biochemicals rushing to create an erection in the man. The woman looks at this and gets the message: If I want to turn him on, I’ll have to model myself as closely as possible on the porn star.

No wonder we live in a time where women have started to believe that being a woman sexually is all about performance: what you look like, whether you have an orgasm and whether you give your man one.

Women have bought into this idea that sex is about performance. We have been living our sexuality through an outdated masculine model that is all about drive, success, results and satisfaction.

But just under the surface, from the depths of our soul, we can hear the urgent whisper of a deeper truth. This truth shines through the awe-filled eyes of the men that truly love us. And the voice says:

Woman, you are the body of love.

Beauty shines from deep inside you.

You are pure radiance – and nothing you put on or change about your body will alter that.

Woman, you are an embodiment of the feminine.

SHE is calling you to discover your natural, juicy, divine sexual aliveness.

Nothing you have ever done – and nothing that has ever been done to you – can keep you from realizing the exquisite fragrance of your true sexuality.

Want to take the next step? I invite you join me for a FREE online virtual workshop:

For more info: http://www.shaktimalan.com/

Entering the Wisdom of Woman’s Sexual Cycles

With Keriesa Botha and Shakti Malan

2 – 7 November 2014

Temenos Retreat Center, Mc Gregor, South Africa

Perhaps the best-kept secret for opening to your sexual essence as woman is this: Our sexuality is cyclical. If you listen to your cycle and live according to its rhythms, your sexuality will open into its true blossoming.

This 5-day retreat offers a small group of women a profound and exclusive space to enter deeper into our sexuality and to tap the wisdom of our cyclical sexual nature under the guidance of two highly experienced facilitators.

As women we are cyclical beings – we wax and wane like the moon, we have high tides and low tides like the sea. The mystery of woman’s sexuality is that it is cyclical in nature and intimately influenced by the ebb and flow of our menstrual cycles.

During each cycle of the moon, our sexual body transforms through 4 different phases. Each of these four phases is a doorway into a deeper communing with our sexuality, with the essence of who we are, and with life.

In order to enter through these doorways, we are invited to listen to the wisdom of our sexual bodies and get in tune with the knowing that each phase brings. The pre-menstrual phase brings the opportunity to clarify our needs and roots us in our intuition. Menstruation is a time for opening, softening and listening, deep into the knowing of our bodies. The follicular and ovulation phases are times to engage in our creativity, feed our imagination and move into the fullest expression of ourselves in the world.

Embracing and engaging our feminine cyclical nature skillfully, empowers us to manage our energy and our daily lives with ease and nourishes our sexual expression with joy and consciousness.

Imagine listening to your sexual cycle as the inner guidance which keeps your life in balance and in harmony with the rhythms of life. Imagine learning the skills of nourishing and restoring yourself during each phase of your cycle. Imagine exploring breath practices that open the sexual body of woman. Imagine experiencing all of this through the rich medium of process art, free writing, dance, storytelling and embodied practices in the beautiful, nurturing setting of the garden of Temenos Retreat Centre. Imagine having two experienced and dedicated guides initiating you into the wisdom of each gateway in your sexual cycle as woman. This is what this retreat offers you.

During the retreat, we will:

Learn about the sexual cycles of women
Understand how to nourish each phase of your cycle
Be guided in subtle movement and breath practices that open the sexual body of woman
Explore our own experience through art, free writing, dance and story telling
Learn from each other’s life experiences through sharing in sisterhood circles
Be nourished by the exquisite garden of Temenos

Q&A about the event:

Will working with my cycle improve my relationship with my sexuality? Most definitely! By starting to live in harmony with your sexual cycles, you will begin to feel your sexual body from the inside out, open to her exquisite flowering, learn to listen to her, and discover the profound wisdom she has to offer you.

I hate menstruating. Why should I put myself through a retreat like this? We understand. Many women feel like you. By bringing consciousness and love to your cycle, you can transform your menstruation into a time of mystical opening and deep self-loving.

What if I am peri-menopausal? Attending the retreat will give you the perfect opportunity to come in harmony with the cycles of your sexual body as they begin to change. This will give you the foundation to enter into the wisdom cycle of menopause, which is its own unique sexual gateway for us as women.

The Presenters

Shakti Malan has a profound passion for the feminine, and she believes that the awakening of female sexual energy is a key to the spiritual awakening of the world in our day. She has been facilitating the discovery of female sexual energy to hundreds of women across the world over the last decade. Her book Sexual Awakening for Women and the courses she teaches based on the book create a space for women to discover the deep feminine and to open to their true magnificence in deep resonance with the masculine. Shakti holds a Ph.D. (UCT) in Social Anthropology.

Keriesa Botha has been one of Shakti’s mentors in the mysteries of the Feminine, and has many years of experience running workshops on the menstrual cycle and menopause. Keriesa has a post-graduate diploma in Psychophonetics Counselling and a Master’s Degree in Leadership and Change Management.

Temenos, the venue

With its cottages and sacred spaces nestled amongst the Gardens of the Beloved, Temenos is the ideal venue for this women’s retreat. See temenos.org.za.

Cost and booking:

R6 000 facilitation fee for bookings before 30 September. R6 800 facilitation fee for bookings after.
Accommodation is R310 pppn (R1550 in Total) sharing and R330 pppn (R1650 in Total) single.

Catering: 3 x simple vegetarian meals per day @ R250/day. Total R1250.

Full payment of accommodation & R1000 deposit is required to reserve your place – Temenos only has accommodation for 17 participants.

For bookings and inquiries contact Rhianne van der Linde – rhiannevdl@gmail.com

For more info: http://www.shaktimalan.com/event/entering-the-wisdom-of-womans-sexual-cycles/

Awakening Your Feminine Essence – 7 Week Online Course for Women

Discover how to release your old sexual patterning, come home to your body of bliss and live your full power as embodiment of the Feminine.

                                   
The seven course teaching sessions calendar is as follows:
October 28
November 4, 11, 18 & 25
December 2, 9

                              October 28 - December 9 | $297

It is time for the sexual essence of women to wake up on the planet. SHE is calling you. And you are feeling it.

Like so many women I have met across the world, you probably have a knowing that there is more to your sexuality as woman — so much more — than what you have accessed thus far.

You feel under your skin that there is so much bliss that wants to wake up in your body, so much love that wants to radiate from you.

You realize somewhere deep that sex is more than gratification of your need or someone else’s.

You know it is a powerful force of awakening. And you sense that there is something awesomely unique about feminine sexual essence.

However, the essence of female sexuality is not much understood in our world. We have forgotten how our sexuality expresses our spiritual essence as the Feminine.

As successful women in the world, we have become more focused on achieving — even in the bedroom — than on feeling. Many women are confused about what it even means to be a woman.

Underneath the confusion is a secret fear of the immense power you sense in your sexuality — and a frustration about how to access that power in a healthy way.

You may be feeling this conflict in you: on the one hand, sex can feel so awkward and exposing that we prefer not to bring too much awareness to it. And on the other hand, you yearn for the pulsating aliveness that perhaps you may have tasted in moments of exquisite lovemaking. You yearn to let your life be infused by that quality of bliss.

The good news is:

your confusion about your sexuality as a woman is not as personal to you as you think.

You have been raised with an outdated masculine model of sexuality that is focused on performance in bed.

Furthermore, our patriarchal heritage has left us with the virgin-whore split in our sexuality as women: you fear your potent passionate sexuality because you don’t want to be seen as a whore but you yearn to express the freedom that is your birthright as woman.

Or perhaps in rebellion, you wildly express your sexuality and find that you have somewhere lost touch with the sacred essence of who SHE really is in you — SHE, the sacred Feminine.

You compromise sexually and make do with what you know is not the real thing. You feel driven to have or give orgasms, and frankly, sex can be exhausting. You know that there is more to feel in our bodies, you know you are more – magnificently more than what you are currently accessing.

Our sexuality as women is asleep.

But SHE, the pure sexual Feminine, is waking up. She is ready to give birth, through you, to a new evolution of humanity.

You can be part of this awakening.

The way through our limited perception of feminine sexuality is to go within. The way of the Feminine is the way of feeling, from deep inside. From deep inside our bodies and our hearts, we start to feel again the sacred essence of the Feminine.

• Imagine being deeply in touch with your body with every breath…


• Imagine feeling an undulating aliveness through your body all through the day…


• Imagine resting into your own sexuality with deep contentment while being radiantly open to the world around you…


• Imagine being able to taste the nectar of life in your intimate relating…

These are states that this journey with me could open for you.

This work is a collective healing. And it is deeply personal as well. This experience will help you in letting go of that which no longer serves you sexually.

It initiates the opening of your true sexual flowering — your Beautiful Body of bliss.

Discovering this feminine sexual energy can set every moment of your day alight with bursting creative spark, inspiration and luscious enjoyment of life.

When a woman’s sexual energy flowers, she radiates an irresistible inner beauty which turns her into a profound muse and inspiration for her love partner.

Energetically, her sex center is the same as her creative center, and thus an opening in the flow of her sexuality can reveal a fountain of spontaneous creativity that can transform her world.

In the workplace, she radiates inner power coming from her heart’s knowing and her deep intuition. Reality begins to magically transform into higher possibility when we walk the walk of the Feminine instead of trying to be like men.

For more info: https://www.shaktimalan.com/awakening-your-feminine-essence/